“None of us ought to be defined by the ugliest moments of our lives — and especially not our teenage lives.” - Matt Bai
I felt I had to share an excellent opinion article with you on the current situation with Supreme Court nominee, Brett Kavanaugh and his sexual assault accuser, Christine Blasey Ford. I haven’t broke into political feminist lines in years on my blog and that’s been a conscious choice. I can tell you my blood pressure is way lower and my love of life way higher; however, in this instance, I feel the need to pay attention and in some way nudge the views out there and not even for “my side” but whatever side you side for but with an intelligent and educated viewpoint, not news hype. This is important.
The last presidential election absolutely disgusted me and as many of my regulars (friends, readers, collectors) have noticed, I removed myself from Facebook and most social networks and I have minimized, if not eliminated, my opinions about feminism, politics or controversial topics — the exact opposite of my past blog on WordPress many moons ago and when I wrote for a law blog as a resident feminist writer for an attorney now quite big on the national lines. (that makes me proud though)
I don’t want Kavanaugh in the Supreme Court but this is because Wade vs. Roe is the most valuable law women have in our country. I want no one who may put that in jeopardy. I’m so personally triggered by this topic that I chose not to submit some of my Sexibition artwork (circa 2005-2010 approx) I’m certain would have had good chance to be included into a current local show titled Wade vs. Roe at Sulfur Studios in Savannah, Ga (see the show if you’re in the area). I could have submitted newer work but the Sexibition collection was all about the feminism that I stood for which I think represents still the big feminist issues facing us today. Many of the artworks are still relevant today, such as these, “United States of American Freedom” and “My Body”:
I am so passionate about the need for pro-choice for women that I have to remove myself from the conversations around it, as I’ve been putting myself into them since I was 14 or 15 - hey! high school! - because after all this time my heart will pop and I will drown in my own blood. Harsh, I know. I remove myself from the pool because pro-choice is so clearly constitutional and a rightful choice of an autonomous, sentient, interdependently embodied human being that I cannot comprehend how it is not except for any other reason than to take control from women and ensure breeding of the human species. Period. If Life itself actually mattered, it would matter across all sectors and ethically delicate situations but life’s value is a relative one. It’s valuable for those who control it and life seems to be all about power (money and sex manifest one’s power).
I am on the fence about Kavanaugh’s accuser, Ford, primarily for the reality that she is bringing to the table what happened in high school 36 years ago, while intoxicated no less! However, that’s a thought we all had. Rightfully, she deserves to be heard but about something that happened while intoxicated? I can tell you a few people I know who drink and don’t recall what they did last night so it’s very, very difficult to understand this without Ford’s testimony.
All of us have done things we wish we had not in high school (maybe even last week). This hits ALL of us. Who is, in fact, safe from their past under the new era of “The Past Matters”? All of these new “movements” and “matters” and finger pointing social norms that are popping up in our landscape are sadly so hyped up that they shape minds with emotion and that is what has gotten us here today, to our status quo as an American society.
This said, I read this opinion piece by Matt Bai and it deserves to be read because it answers what we need to ask and think about regarding anyone who is questioned in their character running for public office, not just Mr. Kavanaugh. Bai presented an intelligent view and a fair objective perspective. He tweaked the public hype for me and put a spin on the true context, which is most important to keep in mind and I really needed that clarity to view this and much more with a broader vision. In Bai’s words:
“Character demands context. The moral arc of a lifetime matters. Not everything is equally relevant…
He could have said [states the author of Kavanaugh], in effect: Judge me for my lifetime of service, not for whatever may have happened at 17 that I was too stupid and drunk to remember.
But that’s not what Kavanaugh is saying. He dismisses not only the allegation but the context around it. He says he wasn’t that kind of kid. He says he wasn’t there, in the house Ford can describe in detail.
He makes a victim of her all over again, by essentially calling her delusional. He makes no allowance for the possibility that his own memory is blurred by inebriated youth.”
I think this is an intensely valuable point that nutshells the article. It’s not so much what he did as a teen or didn’t do exactly in this case on a broader scale than merely feminism and the #MeToo movement present; it’s what character will admit to now and how and that is the character that defines the man. And, Bai is right: Kavanaugh victimizing Ford (now if not again) by keeping himself clean of such activity. Not being fully honest with himself and others (assumption based on this article’s presentation), shame will directly affect Kavanaugh’s decisions as a Supreme Court Justice and that will touch all of our lives directly or indirectly for years to come, and not only on feminist issues. For him or against him, Bai provides good thought about how to enhance our views on this vital American matter and the way in which we choose our politicians — as though our President wasn’t enough of a lesson.
If this topic interests you, I highly suggest Bai’s article.
…third accuser. Kavanaugh is toast. This is going to be tough to overcome so let’s see how the circus plays out. I can’t wait until the hearings Thursday. I won’t comment further until this is over, but I will say that it truly disappoints me when men fail because when they do, it is because of sex and their relationship with it and not particularly with us, with women. However,it directly affects our relationships with them. A truly honorable person is one who can control their sexuality, understand its appropriateness and take “No” for an answer at anytime in the act. There is a fine line between nudging boundaries to ignoring and disrespecting them. What disappoints me in Kavanaugh — if proven guilty or not because a movement’s movement doesn’t need evidence to move — is he just added more evidence for a stronger #MeToo movement (which is good for the movement but bad considering what the movement is exposing) AND he made men look worse as though they don’t already look like a bunch of fucking bastards who rape women. I mean, fact is, most are not but when I listen to the #MeToo hype, that’s what I hear and that’s not what I’ve experienced. It’s a shame for all of us that another man is looking like he’s going be be burned at the stake in the public eye. My, how the times have changed: are we in an era of the male “witch hunt”?