Kavanaugh, Character & Whorehood

(this post is the continuation of my Kavanaugh views from my previous post. )

Regarding Kavanaugh, I quote this (though there were a bunch of great articles I could quote from, this one sums it up both about him and the US President):

At a campaign rally in Mississippi on Tuesday night, Trump openly mocked Ford’s testimony. The display was condemned by three Republican senators — Susan Collins (Maine), Lisa Murkowski (Alaska) and Jeff Flake (Arizona) — who are seen as swing votes.

“There’s no time and no place for remarks like that,” Flake said on NBC’s “Today” show. “To discuss something this sensitive at a political rally is just not right. It’s just not right. I wish he hadn’t done it. I just say it’s kind of appalling.”

“The president’s comments were just plain wrong,” Collins said.

After an initial review of the FBI report, Collins told reporters that it appeared “to be a very thorough investigation.” Flake said the same, adding that he saw no additional corroborating evidence to substantiate the allegations against the nominee.

Meanwhile, more than 1,200 law professors have signed a letter opposing Kavanaugh’s confirmation, arguing that during last week’s hearings he “displayed a lack of judicial temperament that would be disqualifying for any court.” (emphasis is mine) (source)

One thousand two hundred law professors are a lot of legal minds to pass concerned judgment over a few handfuls of “experts” in the Judiciary Committee and of course, Donald Duck himself. It is only on faith we may support the idea that the FBI interviews were “very thorough”.

I watched the hearings. I felt Ford, her pain and struggle. She didn’t convince me her assailant was in fact Kavanaugh but she definitely experienced sexual assault (though, honestly, drunken teens in the 80s it may have sincerely been more horseplay than assault but her assailant, whoever it was, didn’t rape her and fact is, who knows if that was an intent. Maybe the intent was not even intended to be more than dumb teens fucking around so, while she was in fact rightfully fearful, there’s no way to know that the assailant was in fact going to rape her or just fuck with her head so to speak — and he did succeed in that point, we must agree there). Ford brought heroism to America and real heroes are those who take the risks because it’s for the greater good, not for titles, praise or fame. Her testimony was compelling and riveting. I waited to hear Kavanaugh with an open mind. He deserved that; we all do. Within five minutes of his opening statements, I felt totally stunned by his outcries. Just shocked he displayed himself so angry and accusatory - as a judge! Isn’t he supposed to show he can rise above the commoners and walk the tight rope like a professional? Ford did.

If you read my last post, you know I oppose Kavanaugh but not necessarily because he committed, maybe, a sexual assault. We don’t know he did factually and so in fairness, being we are in America, he must be taken as innocent and proven guilty. It’s the right thing to do on the foundation of our Constitutional gifts even if it may feel very wrong for some citizens. One can’t just “believe her” and make assumptions. Sure protest and be heard but seriously realize that beliefs are not facts in law terms and it has to be this way. Constitutional laws are in place to protect everyone, not just your views. The deeper problem isn’t if he’s guilty or not at this point in time; but Kavanaugh’s very character is flawed in so that he reeks of beer and disorientation of what “good character” looks like from a truly strong, honest and honorable man vantage point.

Alcohol forces your inhibitions down and nothing pushes people into their fantasy zone faster. If you want to fuck up, drink too much. It’s a guarantee, except, the depth of your fuck up is the unknown variable. So, we know this and thus shouldn’t expect Kavanaugh to have behaved better in a time pre-MeToo movement. He’s grandfathered in so to speak. However!

Kavanaugh’s demeanor during the hearing was unbecoming of an honorable, disciplined, compassionate, sympathetic, intelligent man. It was difficult to sympathize with his misfortune the same way I sympathized with Ford’s misfortune. The Supreme Court demands an honorable demeanor because it is the most honorable seat. He couldn’t even fake his demeanor. Do you understand this? He couldn’t rise above it and fake it.

Women are good at faking it because that is what we all must do to get ahead at some point in our lives. For some it’s rarely or occasionally and for others it’s often. We, as in women, deal with so much male bullshit that we bathe in hot tubs and pretty perfume so we may smell of flowers rather than the shit stink manifested in all sorts of creative ways upon us. There’s always a new generation that isn’t into the bathing, smelling pretty path of faking it. They don’t want to fake it so they’re saying fuck it instead, fuck you to be more exact, I think. They are rebels and we all need a dose of rebel yell to shake up the monotony of life’s yes-men (or women). If this didn’t happen, most of America really wouldn’t know or care about who Kavanaugh was. Agree or not, this made us all think deeper about a variety of important issues facing Americans today.

If a woman displayed Kavanaugh’s demeanor in a hot-seat situation, she’d be devoured by ridicule, played as too weak to take the pressures of the job. She would be - unfortunately - a false testament to how “emotional” women are and thus unfit to serve. I’m no fan of Hillary Clinton but if she acted this way, she would just never live that down. She would have broken all the power she took years to cultivate. And, in the process, sadly I say this, but she wouldn’t make women look any better than our stereotype. The same holds true for Anita Hill or any woman put before a group of men asking loads of testing questions. So how did Kavanaugh make good men actually look good?

I simply didn’t see in Kavanaugh, the kind of man worthy of a lifetime appointment on the United States Supreme Court, the final word of the land. Kavanaugh did lie under oath before and his emotional outburst was difficult to witness. He dodged questions, was rather rude and obnoxious and was a complete turn off to me. I couldn’t tell if he was authentically hurting, acting or just stuck in puberty like a little lost blame-it-on-others boy. I felt he embarrassed himself. I cringed from it. I spoke with a Republican friend of mine and he felt totally the opposite of me. It’s hard to argue the perspective in the way one sees another because we skew our perspective to suit our visions. I’m not right or wrong; I’m just an embodiment of a particular view that suits the way I view the privilege of serving on the highest court in our country. Step it up if it you want the highest step. I simply expect more but for others, there isn’t more to expect. Ultimately, our expectations determine the kind of life we end up creating. Unity is a tough road for us all.

***I said I’d not discuss this til the vote was over. I am impatient on this and very busy the next week and won’t get back to this for several weeks. I expect Kavanaugh to be voted in now that two of the senators stated a yes vote. It’s not a huge disappointment because I expected this but I was hoping he would at least not get voted in due to his expression of character so that surprises me and disappoints me but politicians usually do… so back to my painting corner I go, a world that makes sense to me. Plus, I picked up a new book to tell you about in the near future. It’s about the history of prostitution aka whorehood if you were wondering how I folded that word into the title. :) It should be interesting to add that info to the history of pornography knowledge I’ve gained. ***

Judging the Judge: Oh, K...

“None of us ought to be defined by the ugliest moments of our lives — and especially not our teenage lives.” - Matt Bai

I felt I had to share an excellent opinion article with you on the current situation with Supreme Court nominee, Brett Kavanaugh and his sexual assault accuser, Christine Blasey Ford. I haven’t broke into political feminist lines in years on my blog and that’s been a conscious choice. I can tell you my blood pressure is way lower and my love of life way higher; however, in this instance, I feel the need to pay attention and in some way nudge the views out there and not even for “my side” but whatever side you side for but with an intelligent and educated viewpoint, not news hype. This is important.

The last presidential election absolutely disgusted me and as many of my regulars (friends, readers, collectors) have noticed, I removed myself from Facebook and most social networks and I have minimized, if not eliminated, my opinions about feminism, politics or controversial topics — the exact opposite of my past blog on WordPress many moons ago and when I wrote for a law blog as a resident feminist writer for an attorney now quite big on the national lines. (that makes me proud though)

I don’t want Kavanaugh in the Supreme Court but this is because Wade vs. Roe is the most valuable law women have in our country. I want no one who may put that in jeopardy. I’m so personally triggered by this topic that I chose not to submit some of my Sexibition artwork (circa 2005-2010 approx) I’m certain would have had good chance to be included into a current local show titled Wade vs. Roe at Sulfur Studios in Savannah, Ga (see the show if you’re in the area). I could have submitted newer work but the Sexibition collection was all about the feminism that I stood for which I think represents still the big feminist issues facing us today. Many of the artworks are still relevant today, such as these, “United States of American Freedom” and “My Body”:

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I am so passionate about the need for pro-choice for women that I have to remove myself from the conversations around it, as I’ve been putting myself into them since I was 14 or 15 - hey! high school! - because after all this time my heart will pop and I will drown in my own blood. Harsh, I know. I remove myself from the pool because pro-choice is so clearly constitutional and a rightful choice of an autonomous, sentient, interdependently embodied human being that I cannot comprehend how it is not except for any other reason than to take control from women and ensure breeding of the human species. Period. If Life itself actually mattered, it would matter across all sectors and ethically delicate situations but life’s value is a relative one. It’s valuable for those who control it and life seems to be all about power (money and sex manifest one’s power).

I am on the fence about Kavanaugh’s accuser, Ford, primarily for the reality that she is bringing to the table what happened in high school 36 years ago, while intoxicated no less! However, that’s a thought we all had. Rightfully, she deserves to be heard but about something that happened while intoxicated? I can tell you a few people I know who drink and don’t recall what they did last night so it’s very, very difficult to understand this without Ford’s testimony.

All of us have done things we wish we had not in high school (maybe even last week). This hits ALL of us. Who is, in fact, safe from their past under the new era of “The Past Matters”? All of these new “movements” and “matters” and finger pointing social norms that are popping up in our landscape are sadly so hyped up that they shape minds with emotion and that is what has gotten us here today, to our status quo as an American society.

This said, I read this opinion piece by Matt Bai and it deserves to be read because it answers what we need to ask and think about regarding anyone who is questioned in their character running for public office, not just Mr. Kavanaugh. Bai presented an intelligent view and a fair objective perspective. He tweaked the public hype for me and put a spin on the true context, which is most important to keep in mind and I really needed that clarity to view this and much more with a broader vision. In Bai’s words:

“Character demands context. The moral arc of a lifetime matters. Not everything is equally relevant…

He could have said [states the author of Kavanaugh], in effect: Judge me for my lifetime of service, not for whatever may have happened at 17 that I was too stupid and drunk to remember.

But that’s not what Kavanaugh is saying. He dismisses not only the allegation but the context around it. He says he wasn’t that kind of kid. He says he wasn’t there, in the house Ford can describe in detail.

He makes a victim of her all over again, by essentially calling her delusional. He makes no allowance for the possibility that his own memory is blurred by inebriated youth.”

I think this is an intensely valuable point that nutshells the article. It’s not so much what he did as a teen or didn’t do exactly in this case on a broader scale than merely feminism and the #MeToo movement present; it’s what character will admit to now and how and that is the character that defines the man. And, Bai is right: Kavanaugh victimizing Ford (now if not again) by keeping himself clean of such activity. Not being fully honest with himself and others (assumption based on this article’s presentation), shame will directly affect Kavanaugh’s decisions as a Supreme Court Justice and that will touch all of our lives directly or indirectly for years to come, and not only on feminist issues. For him or against him, Bai provides good thought about how to enhance our views on this vital American matter and the way in which we choose our politicians — as though our President wasn’t enough of a lesson.

If this topic interests you, I highly suggest Bai’s article.

-TvT

*UPDATE 9/26/18

…third accuser. Kavanaugh is toast. This is going to be tough to overcome so let’s see how the circus plays out. I can’t wait until the hearings Thursday. I won’t comment further until this is over, but I will say that it truly disappoints me when men fail because when they do, it is because of sex and their relationship with it and not particularly with us, with women. However,it directly affects our relationships with them. A truly honorable person is one who can control their sexuality, understand its appropriateness and take “No” for an answer at anytime in the act. There is a fine line between nudging boundaries to ignoring and disrespecting them. What disappoints me in Kavanaugh — if proven guilty or not because a movement’s movement doesn’t need evidence to move — is he just added more evidence for a stronger #MeToo movement (which is good for the movement but bad considering what the movement is exposing) AND he made men look worse as though they don’t already look like a bunch of fucking bastards who rape women. I mean, fact is, most are not but when I listen to the #MeToo hype, that’s what I hear and that’s not what I’ve experienced. It’s a shame for all of us that another man is looking like he’s going be be burned at the stake in the public eye. My, how the times have changed: are we in an era of the male “witch hunt”?