I was dazzled when I recently discovered the works of Esther Perel, whose ideas of eroticism are so similar to mine I felt awe and complete joy to hear someone else verbally recite what I never seemed to finalize with proper focus. Perel's experience as a psychotherapist affords her the extra measure of knowledge I just couldn't get into my theories when I studied sexual philosophy and ethics in college. This elusive concept of eroticism, one few understood from the kind of depth I discovered years ago, drove me into years worth of intensive research which I eventually had to shelve. It's so refreshing to turn my brain on again though, and so I had to share this thrill with you.
Esther Perel's work is spot on with respect to the beauty and poetics of eroticism's language and the desire that makes it so. Here's a few time worthy gems you shouldn't miss:
- Unlocking Erotic Intelligence on Psychology Today
- The Secret to Desire in a Long Term Relationship on TED Talks.
- Rethinking Infidelity, a talk for anyone who has ever loved on TED Talk